You've Heard of a Pre-Nup, How About a Pet-Nup?
Michelle Milliken
When a couple breaks up, there are a lot of things to discuss. That includes who will stay in the home or if both partners will leave, how to sort out any shared financial assets, and, for those who have had children together, what co-parenting will look like. The younger a couple is, that last part will likely involve shared pet custody, too, according to a new survey.
Pet resource website Kinship recently conducted a survey of more than 2,000 pet owners currently living with partners to get an idea of what couples discuss before adopting a pet… and what they’ll do with their furry friends if the relationship goes kaput.

The survey showed that couples think a wide range of topics are important ahead of adopting to make sure their pet has all their needs met. Three in five respondents felt daily responsibilities were a key discussion topic, while about half thought finances were important to iron out. At least three in 10 also prioritized plans for training and discipline, daily schedule, back up care, and emergency funds.
In the event of an emergency of the breakup kind, more than 24% of respondents reported having a pet-nup agreement, with an additional 22% thinking about it. Discussions for a pet-nup include who gets primary custody, how to split costs, how to communicate with each other about care, who makes health decisions, and what to do if neither party can keep the pet.

These agreements were most common among Gen Z, with 35% of pet owners in that generation having one in place. The percentage got lower with each older generation. Only 1 in 10 boomers reported having one. A person’s geography seemed to impact the likelihood of a pet-nup, too. In New York, 77% of respondents were either thinking about it or already had one. On the other end of the spectrum, none of the Alaskan or Montanan participants said they had one.
If things go even more awry in this pet-nup period, 60% of respondents said they’d take their ex to court for pet custody. Again, Gen Z was most adamant about it, with 74% ready to go to court, compared with 42% of boomers on the older end. Cat people were also slightly more likely to do so – 67% of cat owners would, compared with 63% of dog owners. Women were more inclined to do so, as well, with 63% getting litigious compared with 56% of men.

Though this sounds contentious, it largely comes down to concern for pets. Roughly two-thirds of respondents said pet-nups are important for a pet’s health and wellbeing and that it provides clarity on pet custody and care. More than half of respondents also said it would help avoid the pet being rehomed or taken to a shelter, and it reduces emotional stress and conflict.
If you’d like to read more of the findings, click here! You can also learn more about Kinship here.